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How to combat Narcissism

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Here are the top tips of today’s episode:

• When you are in an abusive relationship it is easy to lose sight of the treasure trove of qualities which exist inside of yourself.

• When you are in an abusive relationship it is hard to find a way back to recovering the treasure trove inside of yourself.

• Getting onto a healing path after an abusive relationship becomes your treasure map to rediscovering and recovering the treasure inside of yourself.

• Co-dependency is a part of abusive relationships and is part of what leaves victims vulnerable to being used and abused.

• When you become co-dependant in a relationship you give your power over to the other person, allowing them to dictate your happiness.

• When you become disempowered in your own life it becomes super challenging to make independent choices. It is common for people who are disempowered to be indecisive and confused.

• Society puts expectations on us which can make us feel as though we are failing in life, which can cause us to devalue ourselves.

• Once a narcissist is fixed with a pattern of behaviours it is difficult to shift the narcissist to change. That is one of the reasons why it is better to put your energy into what you can do to heal your own life, rather than trying to fix them.

• The narcissist does not want to take responsibility for anything so they will try to shame and blame you for all the problems.

• It is common for women to try and put up a pretence to everyone around them that everything is fine when the opposite is true.

• But pretending doesn’t make anything better, so seek support from trusted family, friends and professional services where appropriate.

• When you are in an abusive relationship because you are being driven by fear it can be hard to judge what is safe and what is going to make matters worse, but don’t let that hold you back from seeking help and support.

• Find refuge with people you feel safe with.

• Something that will be very helpful to you in forging a new life is to make a conscious choice to leave your old life behind.

• Victims and Survivors are often empathic people and are predisposed to being people pleasers and as people pleasers they will forget to put healthy boundaries around themselves which leaves them open to be used and abused.

• It is really important to learn the skill of picking your battles because battles are exhausting, so choose which one’s are really important to protect yourself and stand up for yourself for your needs and your rights.

• There is no winning a battle with a narcissist.

• Before you get into another relationship take time to identify your values to be clear about what the shared values need to be in a relationship with another person.

• Learning to love yourself before you jump into a new relationship will help you to attract the right kind of relationship.

I hope this interview inspires you to rise and shine.

If you would like to connect with Raven Scott or purchase her book Empath & The Narcissist use the links above.